There is always one popular guy in a group of lads who seems to get the girls whilst you are standing at the bar wondering if there is something wrong with you. Why aren’t you getting the girls?
Well it’s time to come out of the shadows and find your mojo. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it. Batman got Wonder Woman in the end; so don’t give up on your search and settle for Robin, it’s not a good look!
In this first article we provide you with the information you need to prepare for a first date. Find out our guys guide to first date.
Preparing for a first date
Whilst you may think that women are from Venus and men are from Mars, there can be some confusion when it comes to understanding exactly what women want.
Lets start you off on some positives:
• Real women are not looking for money, success and fame in men.
• 97% of women think that bald guys are attractive. They aren’t looking for Mr Muscles either.
The real of characteristics women are looking for in a man are:
• Assertiveness
• A good sense of humour
• Confidence
• Respect
• Compatibility
• A charming personality
Become the best version of yourself
Making the right impression is difficult in any situation, but it’s especially hard on a first date, because you are putting your inner and outer selves on the table to be judged. Who wants to be rejected?
In order to attract the girl of your dreams, you may very well need to be the best version of yourself.
Our top tips for becoming the best version of yourself on your first date
TOP TIP: Looking and feeling good will not only help you to feel more confident but it will shine across too. Others are more likely to perceive you as successful and self-confident as well. To look and feel good consider:
• Dressing well
• Bathing and smelling good
• Smile
• Laugh
• Exhibit a little knowledge about things that are interesting
Need more convincing?
The top 4 dating tips for a first date
1. Groom your beard and moustache
Shampoo
Lots of guys don’t wash their beards, or if they do, they use soap, which would then be used on their underarms too. Bad idea! This will not only dry out your beard but it will dry your skin out underneath too.
Instead shampoo at least a few times a week. Use a moisturising shampoo to prevent your hair from getting brittle.
Condition
Use a thick, heavy-duty conditioner to keep your beard from becoming wiry. Let the conditioner sit there. Consider the leave in kind that you don’t have to rinse out.
Trim your moustache and beard
Even if you are growing your beard long, we recommend that you give it a trim every two months. It’s like getting rid of split ends in your hair. If you are keeping it short, trim your beard every few weeks or so.
SEE ALSO: Your guide to becoming superman: THE BEARD
2. Hair Styling
When it comes to styling your hair, not only should you be using the right products but you need to be styling your hair to suit your hair type too.
Using mousses and conditioners will provide fluff that is more natural, as opposed to gel, which can stiffen your hair giving it an unnatural appearance.
Normal/thick hair
This type of hair is full, thick and can have a bit of a wave. You can opt for many hairstyles, with a little effort put in of course!
Hairstyling options:
• Opt for a slightly longer and layered on the top and front, and slightly shorter on the sides and back.
• Keep it short and layered all around. Spike it up and style with your hands for the popular ‘bed head’ look.
• If you are more into your hair being completely straight: cut your hair to a medium length, keeping it slighter shorter around the ears and the back of the head. Then, comb it back with a mousse and let it dry. Once dry, fluff out the hair and it will fall straight to the sides.
Thin/Fine/Straight
You may not be a fan of the floppy look of straight hair, so instead you shave it all off. Don’t let your straight hair go to waste as many people regard this type of hair as ideal.
If you hair is straight and provides good coverage, grow it out a bit and play around with it. Embrace conditioners and mousses to give it some bounce and style.
Hairstyling options:
• Keep your hair long (about 3.5” to 5.0”) and layered on the sides, back and top, but keep the bangs shorter.
• The bed head look is also great for straight hair as it give it a bit of an ‘oomph’ and style to otherwise completely poker straight hair
Curly/kinky
Not always so easy to manage but fun! A head of curly hair is full of bouncy curls and usually gives thick coverage.
Don’t make the mistake of overusing hair gels and heavy creams. Slathering on products such as this not only damages your hair, but it also gives it a shell-like, unnatural appearance.
Hairstyling options:
• Cut your hair short all around and leave it unlayered (except around your ears). Use a small amount of mousse, comb it back and let it air dry.
• Or instead of combing it back, you can try a slight part on the side.
• Keep curly hair under control by using a balm or mousse that is specifically for your curls. It will not only tame your hair but also keep it moisturised and healthy.
SEE ALSO: Your guide to becoming superman: THE HAIR
3. Skincare
• Exfoliating will stop blackheads (especially blackheads that are on your nose) before they start digging deeper into your pores. We definitely recommend that you exfoliate when you steam your face.
Use a men’s face scrub every other day to help prevent and get rid of blackheads. Facial scrubs are not meant to be used everyday, as daily use can actually make your skin worse.
RECOMMENDED: Scrub it – Exfoliator from Green People
• Keep your skin clean: Clean your face with a good cleanser, ideally one that is for oily prone skin. Claudia Fallah’s Azulene Gel facial wash is great for removing dirt and grime, leaving your skin healthy and fresh.
• Drink plenty of water: Drink 2.0 litres of water a day (recommended amount for men) as flushing out toxins can reduce the amount of breakouts you get.
• Wash your face and use moisturiser daily: When it comes to cleansing and moisturising, sometimes it seems to be an all or nothing mentality. Just for the record, it is no good to only use a moisturiser once a week, nor go overboard and scrub your skin too much leaving it red, sensitive, dry, damaged and more prone to breakouts.
Stick to washing and moisturising your face every morning and night to keep your skin hydrated and fresh. Try the Wash & Shave from Green People, which is absolutely great.
RECOMMENDED: Shave Now – Wash & Shave from Green People
• Get plenty of sleep: Aim for 7-8 hours per night to keep your immune system fully functioning and your spot breakouts under control.
4. Hair removal
• Waxing for men, also called manscaping or more recently maxing. Is a popular choice in salons for men. Most men prefer to have a waxing treatment as opposed to some of the other temporary hair removal methods available, like shaving, because of the numerous advantages that waxing provides.
• Sugaring is another popular hair removal option. The sugaring mixture is made up of sugar, water and lemon juice. Sugaring for some male grooming clients offers the same benefits as waxing in terms of the appearance of the skin, the regrowth period and the smoothness of the skin. But it’s the natural option.
• Electrolysis may sound pretty painful and threatening as opposed to waxing and sugaring but the premise behind this method is that a needle zaps the hair at its root and kills it. Electrolysis weakens hairs at the root and it will eventually eliminate hair regrowth.
• Laser hair removal is one of the most common cosmetic procedures in the UK. It beams highly concentrated light into the hair follicles. Pigment in the follicles absorbs the light, which then destroys the hair.
